Let's face it. Certain urges and fantasies have sneaked into our minds from time to time. Adult online dating presents the best way to explore these urges and fantasies as well as fun, less-than-serious relationships. Why?
Well, in adult online dating, anything goes. It does not really matter what your fancy, fantasy or fetish is. There is something for everyone.
Imagine a stranger approaching you in a bar or elsewhere and asking, "Hey, I'm into spanking, want to play?" Kind of creepy, don't you think? This is another big advantage of adult online dating over the other dating methods: choice of alternative lifestyle. What is alternative lifestyle?
Alternative lifestyle can be described as a mode or style of conducting one's life, or certain aspects of it, in a way that does not fit cultural norms and values. In our context, alternative lifestyle may include, but not limited to:
1. BDSM: This encompasses bondage, domination, and sadomasochism.
2. Swinging: This involves consenting adult couples meeting other couples for sexual activity (includes partner-swapping and groups).
3. Polyamory: The practice of being intimately involved with more than one partner with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved.
4. Fetish: May be defined as any object or non-genital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation. Fetishes include things like foot-worship, mode or size of dress, and even racial heritage.
Whether you have an alternative or fetish, you just want to try something new, or want to explore a fantasy; you will find good company in adult online dating.
This does not mean that this dating method is only for those bordering on mental illness (if you will excuse the expression). Those looking for the good old one night stand, discreet relationship, or other forms of sexual encounters will find a home here as well.
Perhaps the biggest advantage of adult online dating is availability of consensual like-minded adults, thus eliminating guessing as well as people with holier-than-thou judgmental attitudes. This beats going out to bars and night clubs, in the hopes of bumping into someone with similar interests.
An added advantage is anonymity and convenience. You can browse adult dating site(s) anonymously at any time of day or night.
Not only that but, both parties can choose not to know any more about each other than what is needed for encounter or relationship to take place.
Though the latitude is wide in adult online dating, illegal activities are strictly prohibited. Reputable sites will not tolerate activities involving minors, prostitution, drugs and the like.
As with almost everything else, adult online dating has some disadvantages also. One is anonymity: a good thing but one that tends to bring out the worst in people.
Some people will do bad things online that they would not otherwise do in real life. This is just the nature of the beast, and there is really not much you can do about it than be aware and exercise caution.
Lies and misrepresentations are perhaps the greatest complaint in online dating. People will lie about their age, profession, social status and the like. Some prostitutes have discovered that it is safer to post an adult ad online than working the streets.
Another thing to look out for is scam sites. Some adult dating sites are fly-by-night operations while others are fronts for pornographic sites.
All things considered, adult online dating presents an exciting way to explore your fantasies, fetishes, alternatives or fancies, and beats all other forms of traditional adult dating hands-down in advantages.
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Thursday, January 25, 2007
Dating: Are Enough People Contacting You Through the Online Personals
Joining an online personals site is one thing, having enough people reply to your profile and make contact is quite another. If you've recently joined an online dating service and you're finding that few people are making contact, then here are some ideas that might help. You can also use these ideas to improve your rate of being contacted if you are just starting with online personals and you are writing your first profile.
So let's begin at the beginning, with the service you have joined. The type of service you are planning to use to attract a dating partner may in itself be a big factor in how successful your efforts are. Specifically, how many members the service has. Clearly a smaller organization with fewer members will provide you with fewer chances of being contacted than a larger service with many more members.
If you are seeking someone for dating locally, always try to find out how many members the service you are considering has in your area. You can do this by using the search facility most dating services provide and do a search for your state or province (or even country if you live in a smaller country with fewer Internet users). If the results page turns up only a handful of members then clearly that service is not going to be much use to you.
What you should be looking for is a dating service that has millions of members overall, and at least a few thousand in your home area. You should also be looking for a quality service that offers guarantees of your money back, and wider facilities than just the personal profiles database itself. Try to find out if there are lots of satisfied users. You can do this by navigating the site but also by searching for reviews and user experiences on the major search engines.
When you have subscribed to a good dating service there is still a lot more you need to do to ensure you get contacted by other singles. If we are talking about something as important as finding a future partner then everyone should find it worthwhile to do a bit of work to be successful!
Take a good look at the profile you have written and plan to use. Don't just post the first rough version that comes into your head. Spend some time looking at other people's profiles to see which ones you are attracted to. Try to work out why. Then take what you have learned and apply it to creating your own profile.
The photo you use is usually the first thing that gets noticed by people browsing the profiles. Of course it is very important that you use a photo of yourself! This may shock you, but some people don't. This may be because they are shy and so make the mistake of using a friend's photo, or they may have joined the personals with a view to scamming other members -- in which case they may use a photo of a model stolen from another site, for example. Such people are out there, be warned! They can often be discovered through inconsistencies in what they say, an avoidance of answering your questions and ultimately heart-wrenching requests for funding for travel, as an example.
The photo you use should be a good one of you that is of high enough quality to give other members a fair idea of what you look like, usually a head and shoulders view. So no smudgy images of you standing in a dark place! It's also best not to post a photo that has other people in it aside from yourself, as this can put off those who might otherwise be interested.
When it comes to writing the words in your profile, one useful technique is to put yourself in the shoes of other members of the site. Try to distance yourself from your own work and see it as other singles might see it. Does it make you sound like an interesting person to check out? Does it make you seem serious about meeting someone? If you are looking for a life partner a good approach is to present yourself as someone looking for friendship as a first stage, with the suggestion of possible romance further down the line.
The header of your dating profile is important. What kind of headers have you found yourself attracted to in the other members profiles you looked at? You may want to note down some good examples and use them to inspire your own -- don't copy other people's work though.
Nothing worthwhile in life is achieved without at least a bit of work, so it is well worth taking the time to get your profile right in something so important as seeking a life partner or dating partner. As a large proportion of those who use the online personals don't make such efforts your profile should stand out among the rest, greatly increasing your chances of success.
You can find out more at Internet Personals Sites. For more on using photos: Online Photo Personals Sites. Stephanie Constantina writes for Single Dating .com. You can use this article on your site if you keep the links and anchor texts intact.
So let's begin at the beginning, with the service you have joined. The type of service you are planning to use to attract a dating partner may in itself be a big factor in how successful your efforts are. Specifically, how many members the service has. Clearly a smaller organization with fewer members will provide you with fewer chances of being contacted than a larger service with many more members.
If you are seeking someone for dating locally, always try to find out how many members the service you are considering has in your area. You can do this by using the search facility most dating services provide and do a search for your state or province (or even country if you live in a smaller country with fewer Internet users). If the results page turns up only a handful of members then clearly that service is not going to be much use to you.
What you should be looking for is a dating service that has millions of members overall, and at least a few thousand in your home area. You should also be looking for a quality service that offers guarantees of your money back, and wider facilities than just the personal profiles database itself. Try to find out if there are lots of satisfied users. You can do this by navigating the site but also by searching for reviews and user experiences on the major search engines.
When you have subscribed to a good dating service there is still a lot more you need to do to ensure you get contacted by other singles. If we are talking about something as important as finding a future partner then everyone should find it worthwhile to do a bit of work to be successful!
Take a good look at the profile you have written and plan to use. Don't just post the first rough version that comes into your head. Spend some time looking at other people's profiles to see which ones you are attracted to. Try to work out why. Then take what you have learned and apply it to creating your own profile.
The photo you use is usually the first thing that gets noticed by people browsing the profiles. Of course it is very important that you use a photo of yourself! This may shock you, but some people don't. This may be because they are shy and so make the mistake of using a friend's photo, or they may have joined the personals with a view to scamming other members -- in which case they may use a photo of a model stolen from another site, for example. Such people are out there, be warned! They can often be discovered through inconsistencies in what they say, an avoidance of answering your questions and ultimately heart-wrenching requests for funding for travel, as an example.
The photo you use should be a good one of you that is of high enough quality to give other members a fair idea of what you look like, usually a head and shoulders view. So no smudgy images of you standing in a dark place! It's also best not to post a photo that has other people in it aside from yourself, as this can put off those who might otherwise be interested.
When it comes to writing the words in your profile, one useful technique is to put yourself in the shoes of other members of the site. Try to distance yourself from your own work and see it as other singles might see it. Does it make you sound like an interesting person to check out? Does it make you seem serious about meeting someone? If you are looking for a life partner a good approach is to present yourself as someone looking for friendship as a first stage, with the suggestion of possible romance further down the line.
The header of your dating profile is important. What kind of headers have you found yourself attracted to in the other members profiles you looked at? You may want to note down some good examples and use them to inspire your own -- don't copy other people's work though.
Nothing worthwhile in life is achieved without at least a bit of work, so it is well worth taking the time to get your profile right in something so important as seeking a life partner or dating partner. As a large proportion of those who use the online personals don't make such efforts your profile should stand out among the rest, greatly increasing your chances of success.
You can find out more at Internet Personals Sites. For more on using photos: Online Photo Personals Sites. Stephanie Constantina writes for Single Dating .com. You can use this article on your site if you keep the links and anchor texts intact.
Choosing an On-line Dating Service
The problem with choosing an online dating service is one hell of a toughie! -- too much of it! There are hundreds of services.
Singles, Personals, Interracial, Niche.. yaddah..yaddah.. and the list goes on..
How can we possibly choose which site is best for our needs? Hmmm..
To choose an online dating service that’s right for you, you need to be clear about what exactly you’re looking for. Once you know what features can be available to you, it will make choosing an online dating service easier.
Look for services that allow you to create a profile that truly tells a lot about you. One that allows you to add your picture is good, but one that allows you to upload several pictures is even better.
It should allow more fields to present your information. When you are filling out your profile, the form should be flexible with areas you can put anything you want to write about yourself
The ability to browse through other people’s profiles.
Does the online dating service you are using limit you as to which profiles you can view and which ones you can’t due to some formula they figured out? If so, that online dating service might not be for you.
Those online dating services that offer levels of membership where one member can do more than others need to be talked about here as well. Keep in mind they are a business. Online dating is not a hobby with them. They have to make money to survive.
However do not be fooled by your online dating service or the one you are considering. If it has a lower level membership and higher levels of membership, then the only real option is the higher level membership. The lower level or free membership options are only come-ons to get you to sign up for the real membership, which is the higher level. So consider joining the online dating service at the highest level or not at all.
Does your online dating service protect your email address? By that I mean a good online dating service filters the emails through themselves, then on to you. You don’t want everyone to have your email address until you decide to give it to him or her.
Does the online dating service provide a chatroom that you can invite people to? This type of option is a great way to allow you to get to know the other person. Forums and message boards just don’t do it as well.
The more features and options the online dating service has, the better your chances of actually finding someone you want to date.
Does your online dating service list you and compare you by geographical region? Does it offer you the opportunity to choose the regions? If it limits your regions to just those they choose for you, you may want to seek an online dating service with the option to choose. You might live in Miami, but travel to New York occasionally and wish to meet or date people from both regions.
Freedom is the keyword here. It’s probably the most important option you should have in mind when choosing an online dating service. Freedom to choose people outside of your compatibility area, freedom to choose outside of the regions that would normally apply because of where you live, and the freedom to do things like join chatrooms and send gifts.
There are a lot of online dating services out there. Take your time and choose the one that will give you the most freedom. You will enjoy your online dating service more if you have more options to choose from. So go out there and find that online dating service who has your dream date waiting for you!
And as the old saying goes...
Try and Try.. until you succeed! :p
Singles, Personals, Interracial, Niche.. yaddah..yaddah.. and the list goes on..
How can we possibly choose which site is best for our needs? Hmmm..
To choose an online dating service that’s right for you, you need to be clear about what exactly you’re looking for. Once you know what features can be available to you, it will make choosing an online dating service easier.
Look for services that allow you to create a profile that truly tells a lot about you. One that allows you to add your picture is good, but one that allows you to upload several pictures is even better.
It should allow more fields to present your information. When you are filling out your profile, the form should be flexible with areas you can put anything you want to write about yourself
The ability to browse through other people’s profiles.
Does the online dating service you are using limit you as to which profiles you can view and which ones you can’t due to some formula they figured out? If so, that online dating service might not be for you.
Those online dating services that offer levels of membership where one member can do more than others need to be talked about here as well. Keep in mind they are a business. Online dating is not a hobby with them. They have to make money to survive.
However do not be fooled by your online dating service or the one you are considering. If it has a lower level membership and higher levels of membership, then the only real option is the higher level membership. The lower level or free membership options are only come-ons to get you to sign up for the real membership, which is the higher level. So consider joining the online dating service at the highest level or not at all.
Does your online dating service protect your email address? By that I mean a good online dating service filters the emails through themselves, then on to you. You don’t want everyone to have your email address until you decide to give it to him or her.
Does the online dating service provide a chatroom that you can invite people to? This type of option is a great way to allow you to get to know the other person. Forums and message boards just don’t do it as well.
The more features and options the online dating service has, the better your chances of actually finding someone you want to date.
Does your online dating service list you and compare you by geographical region? Does it offer you the opportunity to choose the regions? If it limits your regions to just those they choose for you, you may want to seek an online dating service with the option to choose. You might live in Miami, but travel to New York occasionally and wish to meet or date people from both regions.
Freedom is the keyword here. It’s probably the most important option you should have in mind when choosing an online dating service. Freedom to choose people outside of your compatibility area, freedom to choose outside of the regions that would normally apply because of where you live, and the freedom to do things like join chatrooms and send gifts.
There are a lot of online dating services out there. Take your time and choose the one that will give you the most freedom. You will enjoy your online dating service more if you have more options to choose from. So go out there and find that online dating service who has your dream date waiting for you!
And as the old saying goes...
Try and Try.. until you succeed! :p
Top Dating Tips
I thought I would bring you the key dating tips I have gathered along the way in the hope of assisting and enlightening those who need assistance. If you are new to the dating scene, a regular or just simply someone trying to meet someone new there should always be time for top dating tips, advice, information and things to consider. None of us are dating experts otherwise we would have a magic formula to present to others. And no, looks are not the magic formula otherwise all supermodels would be blissfully happy - which they are not my friend. Good looking people the world over struggle when it comes to affairs of the heart. Think of all the major figures in history who have fallen in matters of romance.
The truth is, there are no magic formulas, no perfect tricks of the trade, no cunning ways of trapping Mr. or Miss Right and no top dating tips that wave a magic wand. But there are some essential facts that you should always bear in mind along the way. Dating tips are just that - tips, they are not promises written in stone and different things will always work differently for different people. However, I have noticed that there are some threads of advice that keep cropping up and therefore it is worth reiterating them here.
The truth is, there are no magic formulas, no perfect tricks of the trade, no cunning ways of trapping Mr. or Miss Right and no top dating tips that wave a magic wand. But there are some essential facts that you should always bear in mind along the way. Dating tips are just that - tips, they are not promises written in stone and different things will always work differently for different people. However, I have noticed that there are some threads of advice that keep cropping up and therefore it is worth reiterating them here.
- Get prepared for dating. If you really want to succeed in the dating game, decide who you are looking for, do your research and be ready to commit to dating. Half heartedness won't work. Also prepare for some let downs along the way but don't take dating too seriously either.
- Get your act together. Begin a regime of looking your best. Join a gym, read health magazines, get fit and start a diet. Get your hair cut or styled and begin a new regime of good grooming or beauty treatment. Though it will not find you a date in itself, you will feel a million times more confident about yourself.
- Go shopping and treat yourself to new clothes and even a whole new look. Get your image right, one that you can manage and live with, but one that flatters you. Don't go overboard and look like someone you are not but maybe its time to throw out those tired jeans, old sweaters or cardigans and spruce yourself up. People appreciate appearance.
- Have a good think about what your dating goals are and timescales. Do you see yourself married within 2 years? If you do then approach dating accordingly. If you are more laid back and don't take dating too seriously then ask yourself some honest questions about why you are dating and what you hope to achieve. If it is purely sex then ask yourself if you are about to be honest with those you hope to date.
- Sort out your confidence levels in advance. By following the first four tips you will feel better and be more focused. Do all the things that will boost your confidence from avoiding negative friends (often the married ones) to attending the right kind of social functions. Couples at dinner parties in suburbia is not necessarily where you need to be right now.
- Choose those you have a good chance of dating, don't aim low but do aim realistically. In other words, your dating is based on the whole package you present as well as just your personality. If you are looking for a glamour girl or boy and want to date someone trendy and gorgeous then good for you, but be prepared and be realistic about your chances.
- Work out in advance where in your neighborhood you are likely to meet people and join clubs, societies, sports events, drama groups, anything where you are likely to meet potential partners. The kind of partners you are looking for. I know its a cliché but you will not meet people by staying indoors.
- Take time off from dating occasionally if its not going well or causing dating fatigue. Dating is an ongoing process and so recharging the batteries and keeping the confidence and optimism levels high is an absolute must. So date in phases if necessary.
- Enjoy dating for what it is, dating. It is meeting people and socializing and spending time in the company of stimulating individuals who may or may not bring you a sparkle. The fact is, most people are interesting and whilst you may not be out there looking for new friends, you may well find one or two fabulous people along the way.
- Never ever make yourself too available. People like mystery and enigma and the thrill of the chase when dating. In keeping with this do not sleep with your dates early on if you want them to progress, so keep sex until later. The longer a person is made to chase and fall for you within reason, the more likely that love may blossom. Peak too early and you have little left to offer and emotions may never have had the time to develop.
- Do Join a quality Internet dating agency for free and do post a photo profile if possible. Take your time and check your mail occasionally. Even if you never date online at least it will boost your confidence and spirits and allow you to Practise your opening lines and chat up skills. Internet dating is fun and secure and introduces you to the world of dating safely and gently.
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